People you love the most hurt you the most.

The purpose of hurt is to limit the extent of the damage done to you. The role of hurt is to
tell you that you have been damaged - physically or emotionally. Hurt teaches you to establish limits with others. It shows you and others as to how much can you tolerate. These limits are especially important with people you really care about. In fact, people you love the most have the power to hurt you the most. If you do not express yourself when others hurt you, then they have no way to know that you did not like what they did to you and with you. They would believe whatever they did was acceptable to you. So they keep repeating the same behavior and continue the same approach. In due course hurt compounds and becomes complex. If you don't maintain boundaries, you will find others hurting you all the time, not because they are bad, but because they never knew that they were hurting. Remember, expressing hurt as and when it happens will never take a person away from the relationship. But if you keep continuously sweeping everything under the carpet for too long, then one day you will find dust accumulation of unmanageable proportion. Expressing hurt when it happens is vital for keeping a relationship safe and honest. If you do not say 'No' to hurt WITHIN a relationship, then one day you will have to say 'No' TO the relationship. People treat you in life the way you teach them to treat you. Having expressed your hurt, forgive people who have hurt you. Forgiving is letting go of your hurt. Without forgiving you cannot grow. You cannot correct or alter what has already been done to you.

Importance of thoughts

Power of communication will put you in touch with man. Power of silence will put you in touch with the wisdom that created man. There is one profession behind all Professions - the profession of teaching. The lifeline of a teacher is the power of his communication. There is no denying that the power of communication is one of the greatest of human faculties. However, when the power of communication is derived from the power of silence, it becomes a more potent force. I can vouch for this with personal authenticity - the power of my communication is born out of the power of my silence. Psychologists have estimated that on an average we have as many as 60,000 thoughts per day. More importantly, 95-98% of those 60,000 thoughts we process are repeated daily. Each of those thoughts, at the physical brain level is releasing a shower of chemicals. Neuroscientists estimate that the human brain contains 100 billion neurons. Each neuron has about 1,000 connections. Each connection fires, on an average, 200 times per second resulting in 20,000 trillion calculations per second! And all this consumes loads of life energy. Even if we can reduce the number of thoughts by a small percentage, it can have a huge bearing on our life. Practicing silence for a few minutes every day gives you the power of that conserved energy. When we succeed in reducing the quantity of thoughts, we will start observing a remarkable improvement in the quality of thoughts. How? If we can reduce the number of thoughts, then the thought congestion can come down and we will be able to hold every thought a little longer. The longer we can hold on to a thought, the more potent the thought becomes. Every thought has creative power and the longer we hold a thought, the more powerful it becomes. With every thought, we send out the essence of ourselves, which mingles with other essences and creates and re-creates our physical environment. In that sense, our life is not our master but our child. This is why it is so important to develop self-awareness to the depths of our ability, so that no creation can come about in our life without we making the choice. Practicing silence for a few minutes every day gives you the power to create your chosen environment. Bible says, “Be still, and know that I am God.” In meditation you listen to existence. In meditation you listen to the voice of the beyond. Meditation is a communion with existence. The power of your communication comes from the power of your mind. The power of your mind will come from the power of your silence. Next time around, speak, only if you can improve upon your silence.

I want to share what my master thinks about Gossiping

The most uncivilized activity of the civilized world is gossiping. Even the most educated and the so-called elite indulge in this uncivilized activity. Gossip is ruthless entertainment. In gossip, the tongue and the intelligence are let loose. In more than one way, gossiping is vulgar indulgence. In fact, people come together to form associations and clubs, and gossiping is the lifeline for their fellowship. The most dominant preoccupation of these groups is to discuss about those who aren't present. Never trust a gossiper. After you leave, the one who was gossiping with you will gossip about you with others. Every gossiper will gossip about other gossipers, and this is the noble truth. Hypocrites are those who sweet-talk on the face and bad-mouth behind your back. We shamelessly distort the images of people through gossip, without the slightest care about how much it might affect their lives. Millions of lives will be saved from suicide if gossipers only choose to be of moral support to the emotionally hurt, rather than making news out of them. Gossip is judgment passed out of half knowledge. Every gossiper eventually drinks his own poison. He becomes highly other people conscious. His mind is curious all the time - “What are others saying about me?” Judge not and ye shall not be judged. The contrary is also true. Judge and ye too will be judged. Gossipers no more live life through their own spectacles, but instead live to satisfy the spectacles of others. As I had written in one of the Awakenings, “Curiosity and inquisitiveness are the lifelines for human evolution. When this thirst and hunger for knowledge is canalized towards realizing the higher realities of life, growth happens. We make a blunder by feeding this very thirst and hunger for knowledge with gossip. Aristotle, Freud, JK and us - the quest to know is the same. If they had been gossipers, they would have been among us. If we can stop gossiping, we an be among them.” What does a lion have to do among the cats? The next time the gang around you begins to gossip, just walk away. Refuse to speak or hear about those who are not present, especially when what is discussed is judgmental, negative and insensitive. Let our rapture not come at the cost of rupturing the hearts of other people. Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.

Positive will not ensure sucess but negative will ensure failure (The topic may be a little big but awesome)

Change the content of a thief, and you have a Valmiki. A sinner is transformed into a saint by changing the content of the being. Change the content of 'Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi' and you have Mahatma Gandhi.An atma is transformed into a mahatma when the content of the being is changed. Now, how to change the content of who you are? Thoughts constitute the mind, and the mind constitutes the content of the being. As your thoughts, so your mind; as the mind, so the man. The mind of each man is the man himself. Thought is another name for fate. We are I have a negative approach to everything. I even consulted psychiatrists, numerologists and astrologers, but to no avail. Please tell me - are all the negativities I am suffering because of my previous karma, my fate or because of hereditary issues? Please help me see this world in a positive way.We are what we are because of what has gone into our mind.What we will be will depend on what continues to go into our mind.The computer acronym GIGO - Garbage In Garbage Out - applies to the human mind too. But then the contrary is also true - Good In Good

Out. Remember, you can change yourself, if and only if, you change what goes into your mind.So, to improve the quality of your thoughts, you need to reduce your thought traffic. Too much of thought congestion will incapacitate you from working upon them. Every day, without absenteeism, hold your mind in concentration on any object of your choice -

could be watching your breathing (vipasana), regulating your breath (pranayama), chanting a mantra (japam), focusing on your chosen deity (bhakti) or just watching a glowing lamp or the waves in the sea. Hold your mind on a single point for few minutes every day. If you want to train a wild elephant, it has to first be tamed. Practicing 'concentration of mind' will progressively tame your mind.Then, nurture your mind with quality thoughts. From where do you source quality thoughts? Read self-help books (knowledge authored by great people), scriptures (wisdom of the messiahs) or listen to discourses (thoughts of realised beings). From the time you wake up to the time you go back to sleep, people who are themselves lost, confused and messed up in life keep influencing your mind. This unsolicited trespassing has to be countered by investing a few minutes with the legends of our time, so that you may be influenced by them. Without absenteeism, invest a few minutes every day on this intellectual treat - reading the thoughts and listening to the words of great people.And finally, without absenteeism, analyse your experiences at the end of every day. At the end of every day, just before you go to sleep, order a mental march past of all the experiences you went through in the day.

Recall each experience. Mentally pat yourself wherever you think you were right. Attempt a selfanalysis wherever you think you were wrong. In your own judgement, wherever you think you were wrong, weak or at fault, ask yourself what else you could have done instead; with what virtue you could have countered this weakness, and what can be done to correct that fault. Within days, you will be amazed to realise that you are not repeating the same mistakes (though there is always scope for new mistakes), and there is a new found motivation to do what is right, again and again. This is the process of introspection - looking into your actions and thereby gaining insight into your thoughts. While in all studies, the mind studies the subject, the beauty of introspection is that the mind itself becomes the object of study. Introspection awakens your inner voice. If you give life to your inner voice, then your inner voice will give life to you. “To him that hath, shall be given” is the law. The more we process thoughts of health, wealth, love, bliss and enlightenment, the more powerful will be the attraction for kindred things. So by improving the quality of thoughts, you will improve the quality of your mind, which in turn will result in an improvement in the quality of your life.

I am back(A second innings)

For a day while i am bit out of form to blog.
Now with new ideas and new sharing i want to start an yet another good innings..
Plz support in developing my blog articles and let us find new and good things that we can share with.. Happy blogging and love you all..

I understand fear of calamity hurts me more than the calamity itself.

A mouse was always distressed because of its fear of the cat. A magician took pity on it and turned it into a cat. But then it became afraid of the dog. So the magician turned it into a dog. Then it began to fear the panther. So the magician turned it into a panther, whereupon it became fearful of the hunter. At this point,he turned it into a mouse again saying, “Nothing I do for you is going to be of any help because you have the heart of a mouse.”More than 95% of everything you've feared has never happened. So let us become aware of what fear is and overcome the fear of fear. Fear permeates all forms of life. The purpose of fear is to warn you of a situation that is unfamiliar to you. It pre-empts danger and initiates the physiological responses needed to face or escape the situation. Fear is actually a protector. Fear is a message, not a weakness. In fact, if you had no fear you would have been dead long ago.Face your fears and understand them. Use your fear as a guide to help you understand and prepare for a challenge and not as an excuse for abandoning it. It is important to be brave in the face of fear and act in spite of it. Confidence is your belief that you will make it through in spite of your fear. You destroy confidence by giving in to fear, and you destroy fear by giving in to confidence. It is okay to be afraid, but it is not okay to escape. Face it. Courage is not the absence of fear, but the ability to go ahead in spite of
fear.That which you do not face controls you, and that which controls you causes fear in you. You think you avoid public speaking because you fear it; in reality, because you are not facing the public, you develop fear of the public. You do not avoid your dad because you fear him; because you avoid him, you begin to fear him. Just because we are going to die one day, we don't stop living. Just because you fear something,don't stop facing it.So what's the solution? If I have to kill a lion, I have to face it. Repeatedly face what you fear and fear will be vanquished. Courage is just an initiative away from fear. Go ahead in spite of fear. Take that step forward in spite of your fear. Conquer fear fearlessly.Avoid fear, it grows. Face fear, it goes.

Best Medicine that heals...

I understand it is not the question of whose mistake it is in relationship;it is the question of whose life it is.

In an accident, irrespective of whose mistake it is, if you are injured you suffer the injury. The fact that it was the other person's mistake lessens neither your injury nor the pain from it. Why just speak of an injury? It could have been fatal too. On the road, we readily understand that it is not the question of whose mistake it is, but the question of whose life it is. On the road, we have to accept the differences and the limitations of other drivers, and the responsibility is 'ours and ours alone' to manoeuvre through the traffic.To not hit and to not get hit - both are our responsibility; blaming the other is futile.Then, why haven't we understood that on the road called life, in dealing with the traffic called relationships, we have to accept the differences and limitations of other people, and yet the responsibility is 'ours and ours alone' to grow in relationships. Blaming the other is futile. Responsibility is to respond with ability.
The quality of your life is determined by the quality of your experiences. Experience is the meeting point of 'you' and 'your world'. So, if you need to improve the quality of your life, you have to improve the quality of your experiences, which means you have to improve the quality of the interaction between 'you' and 'your world'. While your world may not always be in your control, you are. It only takes one person to change your life, and that's 'you'. Instead of accepting yourself as you are and expecting the world to change, accept the world as it is and you
start changing - at least change your approach towards the world. A good sailor knows that he cannot change the direction of the wind to reach his destination; what he needs to do is to adjust his sails.The answer is in the road sign 'U-turn'. It doesn't matter who is right or who is wrong. After all, you cannot get your life right by convincing the world that it is wrong. So, 'You turn', instead of expecting the world to turn. The stiffest tree breaks most easily while the bamboo survives by bending with the wind.If my success depends on when the market condition improves, harmony in the family depends on when the husband changes, happiness depends on when friends change… then the quality of my life is left at the mercy of the world. On the contrary, if I can keep asking myself - given these market conditions, what can I do; accepting that my husband is like this, what can I do now, I will gain control over my life.Tell your world - 'Life is beautiful because of you. Life is beautiful in spite of you'.

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