People you love the most hurt you the most.

The purpose of hurt is to limit the extent of the damage done to you. The role of hurt is to
tell you that you have been damaged - physically or emotionally. Hurt teaches you to establish limits with others. It shows you and others as to how much can you tolerate. These limits are especially important with people you really care about. In fact, people you love the most have the power to hurt you the most. If you do not express yourself when others hurt you, then they have no way to know that you did not like what they did to you and with you. They would believe whatever they did was acceptable to you. So they keep repeating the same behavior and continue the same approach. In due course hurt compounds and becomes complex. If you don't maintain boundaries, you will find others hurting you all the time, not because they are bad, but because they never knew that they were hurting. Remember, expressing hurt as and when it happens will never take a person away from the relationship. But if you keep continuously sweeping everything under the carpet for too long, then one day you will find dust accumulation of unmanageable proportion. Expressing hurt when it happens is vital for keeping a relationship safe and honest. If you do not say 'No' to hurt WITHIN a relationship, then one day you will have to say 'No' TO the relationship. People treat you in life the way you teach them to treat you. Having expressed your hurt, forgive people who have hurt you. Forgiving is letting go of your hurt. Without forgiving you cannot grow. You cannot correct or alter what has already been done to you.

I want to share what my master thinks about Gossiping

The most uncivilized activity of the civilized world is gossiping. Even the most educated and the so-called elite indulge in this uncivilized activity. Gossip is ruthless entertainment. In gossip, the tongue and the intelligence are let loose. In more than one way, gossiping is vulgar indulgence. In fact, people come together to form associations and clubs, and gossiping is the lifeline for their fellowship. The most dominant preoccupation of these groups is to discuss about those who aren't present. Never trust a gossiper. After you leave, the one who was gossiping with you will gossip about you with others. Every gossiper will gossip about other gossipers, and this is the noble truth. Hypocrites are those who sweet-talk on the face and bad-mouth behind your back. We shamelessly distort the images of people through gossip, without the slightest care about how much it might affect their lives. Millions of lives will be saved from suicide if gossipers only choose to be of moral support to the emotionally hurt, rather than making news out of them. Gossip is judgment passed out of half knowledge. Every gossiper eventually drinks his own poison. He becomes highly other people conscious. His mind is curious all the time - “What are others saying about me?” Judge not and ye shall not be judged. The contrary is also true. Judge and ye too will be judged. Gossipers no more live life through their own spectacles, but instead live to satisfy the spectacles of others. As I had written in one of the Awakenings, “Curiosity and inquisitiveness are the lifelines for human evolution. When this thirst and hunger for knowledge is canalized towards realizing the higher realities of life, growth happens. We make a blunder by feeding this very thirst and hunger for knowledge with gossip. Aristotle, Freud, JK and us - the quest to know is the same. If they had been gossipers, they would have been among us. If we can stop gossiping, we an be among them.” What does a lion have to do among the cats? The next time the gang around you begins to gossip, just walk away. Refuse to speak or hear about those who are not present, especially when what is discussed is judgmental, negative and insensitive. Let our rapture not come at the cost of rupturing the hearts of other people. Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.

Positive will not ensure sucess but negative will ensure failure (The topic may be a little big but awesome)

Change the content of a thief, and you have a Valmiki. A sinner is transformed into a saint by changing the content of the being. Change the content of 'Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi' and you have Mahatma Gandhi.An atma is transformed into a mahatma when the content of the being is changed. Now, how to change the content of who you are? Thoughts constitute the mind, and the mind constitutes the content of the being. As your thoughts, so your mind; as the mind, so the man. The mind of each man is the man himself. Thought is another name for fate. We are I have a negative approach to everything. I even consulted psychiatrists, numerologists and astrologers, but to no avail. Please tell me - are all the negativities I am suffering because of my previous karma, my fate or because of hereditary issues? Please help me see this world in a positive way.We are what we are because of what has gone into our mind.What we will be will depend on what continues to go into our mind.The computer acronym GIGO - Garbage In Garbage Out - applies to the human mind too. But then the contrary is also true - Good In Good

Out. Remember, you can change yourself, if and only if, you change what goes into your mind.So, to improve the quality of your thoughts, you need to reduce your thought traffic. Too much of thought congestion will incapacitate you from working upon them. Every day, without absenteeism, hold your mind in concentration on any object of your choice -

could be watching your breathing (vipasana), regulating your breath (pranayama), chanting a mantra (japam), focusing on your chosen deity (bhakti) or just watching a glowing lamp or the waves in the sea. Hold your mind on a single point for few minutes every day. If you want to train a wild elephant, it has to first be tamed. Practicing 'concentration of mind' will progressively tame your mind.Then, nurture your mind with quality thoughts. From where do you source quality thoughts? Read self-help books (knowledge authored by great people), scriptures (wisdom of the messiahs) or listen to discourses (thoughts of realised beings). From the time you wake up to the time you go back to sleep, people who are themselves lost, confused and messed up in life keep influencing your mind. This unsolicited trespassing has to be countered by investing a few minutes with the legends of our time, so that you may be influenced by them. Without absenteeism, invest a few minutes every day on this intellectual treat - reading the thoughts and listening to the words of great people.And finally, without absenteeism, analyse your experiences at the end of every day. At the end of every day, just before you go to sleep, order a mental march past of all the experiences you went through in the day.

Recall each experience. Mentally pat yourself wherever you think you were right. Attempt a selfanalysis wherever you think you were wrong. In your own judgement, wherever you think you were wrong, weak or at fault, ask yourself what else you could have done instead; with what virtue you could have countered this weakness, and what can be done to correct that fault. Within days, you will be amazed to realise that you are not repeating the same mistakes (though there is always scope for new mistakes), and there is a new found motivation to do what is right, again and again. This is the process of introspection - looking into your actions and thereby gaining insight into your thoughts. While in all studies, the mind studies the subject, the beauty of introspection is that the mind itself becomes the object of study. Introspection awakens your inner voice. If you give life to your inner voice, then your inner voice will give life to you. “To him that hath, shall be given” is the law. The more we process thoughts of health, wealth, love, bliss and enlightenment, the more powerful will be the attraction for kindred things. So by improving the quality of thoughts, you will improve the quality of your mind, which in turn will result in an improvement in the quality of your life.

Proud to be a almanite

Alma mater is a organization. If i start to explain about it i will take minimum an hour to do ,so please see www.almamater.com if want to know further.

Master minds
The Alumni Association of Almanites, which meets on a weekly basis and contributes to the growth and development of every individual associated with it, in all dimensions of life.

But attending master minds is a habit to follow, is being very hard for me coz every Sunday morning 7 am it starts, if i reach the place by 7:01 am i am out.

Mr Manohar a employee of alma mater conscious on my growth will call me every week for attending master minds.

I lost this week too. Will make it sure next week will update next about the happening in the class.

Frozen thoughts - a monthly magazine belongs to Alma mater is the best magazine i come across ever coz i read very less books but when ever i get to read this i find to read more time.